It is a privilege and an honor to be invited to a wedding as a guest.
It is even a greater privilege to be invited as part of the bridal party.
But, the greatest privilege is to be asked to be the best man or the maid of honor.
To the Best Man or Maid of Honor!
The bride and groom have asked you to be the best man or maid of honor. They trust you and will rely on you for help and support throughout the entire wedding planning and the wedding day. Apparently, you are someone very special and important in their life and they feel they can’t do it without your help.
During the toast, you are responsible for all the guests to know a little something special about them and provide a great reason for everyone to toast. This is a big responsibility and should NOT be taken lightly.
Think about it. If you were the bride or groom, and you invite co-workers, family members, and special friends to your wedding, wouldn’t you want to be represented in a positive, fun, entertaining, and memorable way?
Wouldn’t you want your best man and maid of honor to do the very best job they can at giving a fantastic toast?
Well, good, I’m glad you agree and understand. :)
Here are a few basic guidelines to follow in creating the best toast you can give.
Ask yourself a lot of questions, jot down some ideas, and write down the first things that come to mind when you think about the person who asked you to be the best man or maid of honor. Ask yourself questions like: Why did he chose me? How long have I known him? What do I want to say about him? How can I describe our friendship? How can I describe him? What is the funniest memory I have about him? Why is he perfect for her? Why is she perfect for him? Why are they perfect for each other? What does he say about her? How does he describe her? Did I have anything to do with them meeting? How do I want to end my speech? How do I want them to remember him? What is my objective in giving this speech and toast?What is the most memorable toast, speech, or introduction I have heard? Etc… and write down ideas, answers to these question.
Chose a Topic or Theme
Chose a simple topic and make sure it’s something that you can cover in 5-7 minutes. The toast speech should not be longer than 7 minutes. Some Sample topics are: Friendship, How they Met, Watching them Grow, Prescription for a Successful Marriage, Why They’re Good for Each Other, A Toast to Love and Laughter and Happily Ever After, Famous Quotations. For more information on these, read Wedding Toasts Made Easy.
Write out your Toast
Once you have your brainstorming down and your topic you already have some great content and a direction to take your toast. Then it will be easy to write that perfect toast speech. Don’t forget to include an ending like: “Let’s all raise a cup for Love, Happiness, and Relationships!” Make sure you actually toast, as some Groomsmen forget that part. They come up with a great speech and forget to do the actual toast.
Edit or Modify Your Toast
Leave your toast to rest for a couple of days, just as you would with anything important that you write. This speech is even more important because you are going to be talking about someone special on a special day for them. So it will probably the most important speech you give. After a few days read your speech and make sure you get a good feeling about it, that it says everything you want to say about your friend. And make sure that the guests that don’t know him can understand what you are saying as well as the ones that do know him.
Practice giving your Toast
Everything you do needs practice. Again, this is a speech you will give about a special person on a special day so make sure you take the time to rehearse and perfect your speech. Visualize the day and see yourself giving a successful speech to a group of loving individuals. Also realize that everyone, the Bride and Groom as well as the guests, want to see you succede. They want to see you do a great job. There isn’t anyone in that room that wants to see you fail. This was a point that I realized after reading the book Wedding Toasts Made Easy. There are tons of great advice in that book and even I learned a few ideas I use in giving my introductions. I recommend you buy that book to get a complete understanding of how to give a toast.
Feel good about yourself
If you made it this far, it’s time to feel good about what you have accomplished. You’ve done some hard work and have taken the time to prepare a speech for your friend so take some time to feel good about what you’ve accomplished. You have plenty to feel great about, you were chosen for a very important job, you’ve done a lot of work to get here, and you have a great speech to give. Also you can use that god feeling to prepare for the day of the speech, the better you feel the better you will do on your speech and toast.
You now have an outline on how to prepare a wedding toast. You hear everyone telling you to give it from the heart, and I agree. However, there are a few steps to add to the saying. After all, when you say it, you will… say it from the heart. But, if you don’t know what to say, you will say nothing, from your heart and your speech will have no real meaning to it. By preparing something beforehand you will not only say it from the heart, but you will be presenting a special message that took you days to prepare, and that will add meaning to your toast.
Francisco H. Perez
Your Bilingual Houston Wedding DJ